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The Case of the Disappearing Marriage License

So…over a month ago, the day after our wedding, our minister dropped all of the signed forms documenting our wedding into the mail.  They have not arrived at the Nelson Town Clerk’s office, according to said town clerk.  Now, I’m trying to give everyone the benefit of the doubt and convince myself that the mail is just slow at this time of the year.  After all, it took from November 6th to December 2nd, according to the USPS website, for my certified mail to the IRS to arrive in Kansas, or wherever they were going.  But a friend who married a gay couple in Dover last summer said the exact same thing happened to that couple — the marriage license was “somehow” lost in transit to the Dover Town Clerk, and it took weeks to straighten out. 

That it’s entirely a coincidence is pretty hard to believe.   But we’re talking two different towns.  And when I went to talk to the town clerk in person, she seemed sincerely apologetic at the distress this was causing us and was very helpful, reprinting the original marriage license and signing it along with me, back-dating it to when the first was issued, and explaining how Maureen simply needs to sign it and date it the day we got married.  Then she asked me to bring it directly to her, rather than trusting it to the mail again.

In the meantime, Maureen had to request new copies of her permission to marry NH residents in the state of New Hampshire, since she is a resident of Massachusetts.  Our friend, Claire, offered to drive to the State House and pick those up personally, but no, the State House put the damned things in the mail!  We’ll see if the Raymond town clerk says she received them next week.

Hopefully, we can get all of this resolved before the end of the year.  Maybe even before Christmas.  That would be nice.

In other news, the House just approved a repeal of DADT, and now it’s going to the Senate.  I’m still pissed at John McCain for his ridiculous refusal to accept the fact that the study he requested was done, and done properly, and the majority of people in the military (not to mention the entire country) are tired of DADT and want it repealed.  I doubt he’ll change his opinion, but it would be nice if he admitted that he just doesn’t like the idea personally.  But politicians never admit anything.

Also, a judge in India has just overturned a 148-year-old law banning homosexuals.  Gay men and women, who before today, could be imprisoned for expressing affection in public, were kissing in the streets in celebration! 

My cyberpunk story is still creeping towards an ending.  I got my characters safely to Canada, but was bothered by two things:  1) The trip took them several days.  In all of that time, did they never have a discussion about Connor’s feelings of betrayal, and what Luis is really up to?  And 2) I had an entire page that was reading like a travelogue, with brief descriptions of where they went and what they did, but no actual scenes to speak of.  It was too distancing from the characters.

So, I’ve gone back to the halfway point, where they’ve checked into a hotel so that Connor can jack in and hack their records.  This will allow me to have a scene resolving their personal conflict and possibly throw in a little sex, as well.  We’ll see how it develops.  But I’m at about 13,500 words, so I can’t drag it out much longer.  The cap is 15,000 words for a “short story” by Dreamspinner’s definition.

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I haven’t had time to post recently, since our marriage ceremony was coming up and that was taking up all of my time and energy because we were planning the best wedding with compact mirrors for wedding favours.  But of course, that had to take precedence over everything else for a few days!

On Saturday, November 13th, 2010, I was officially married to Erich Rickheit at the beautifully restored Victorian hotel, Wentworth by the Sea.    Somewhere between 60 and 70 of our friends and family were in attendance, and the ceremony was performed by our friend, the Reverend Maureen Reddington-Wilde.  Afterwards, High Tea was served in the Grand Ballroom (the only ballroom with the original Victorian woodwork) to the sounds of a live string quartet called Artful Noise.

It was amazing.  Erich and I, along with Maureen and our two Best Men, were dressed in reproduction Victorian suits, and quite a large number of our guests showed up in Victorian clothing, as well.  Erich’s Best Man, Brian Reichert, and my Best Man, Bret Fessenden (my brother, of course), gave a couple touching and funny toasts.  After Erich and I stumbled through a few minutes of a waltz, much to the amusement of our guests, my parents joined us on the dance floor, and soon I had to request a second waltz, because a number of people were asking to dance with both grooms.  It made for some humorous moments, as many of our male guests were straight, but still took their turns to dance with us. 

The cake and flowers were all wonderful and hotel blew us all away with its elegance and the efficiency of the staff.  It was a truly epic day that we’ll remember for the rest of our lives.

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Things are not going well for me, at the moment.  Oh, I don’t mean anything catastrophic.  Just stuff piling up and getting under my skin, making it difficult to write.

First of all, though I don’t want this to become a political blog, I have to say the recent election was rough.  I knew the Democrats were going to take a beating, and I can cope with that.  But locally, we now have some newly elected conservatives who have made it one of their primary goals to repeal gay marriage in New Hampshire.  I can deal with people having differences of opinion on how money from the State budget should be spent.  I can deal with differences over gun control, marijuana legalization (which can lead to a lot of problems like dificulting people to get a job, I recommend to visit this site to learn how to get through the urine tests on job intervires), security issues, etc.  But as far as I’m concerned, this is an assault against my personal rights by people who really aren’t affected in any way by me marrying Erich.  They get to wake up in the morning, kiss their spouse goodbye and head to work, where they get to dedicate their time to preventing me from having a spouse.  They are ignorant and vile.

Erich and I will be married before any of these bigots get the chance to prevent it.  In the past, when states have overturned gay marriage, anyone who has been married already has been allowed to keep that status.  So maybe we’ll be safe from their machinations.  Maybe.  But other gays in the state won’t be.  So it may come down to a long, very ugly battle to retain something we’d already won.

Another thing that’s stressing me out is my galley proof for “The Christmas Wager.”  Not because there are any major problems with it, but because there just doesn’t seem to be enough time to work on it.  I have to go through the entire thing and accept all the corrections the editor has made, one by one, or reject them and explain why.  It’s incredibly time-consuming.  Not to mention that Microsoft Word’s change tracking is cumbersome and awkward to use.  I keep trying to accept changes and having to fight to get the correct menu to pop up. 

There are also some minor changes to the story that need to be done.  A line inserted, here and there, to explain certain points.  Other lines corrected to eliminate inconsistencies.  And all of it has to be done by tomorrow.

I also foolishly decided to tackle NaNoWriMo this year, and I’m falling behind on my writing.  Largely because I’m too unhappy to get into the story.  It’s coming along, but not nearly fast enough, and watching my word count slip is just chipping away at my motivation even further!

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